Are you the person you always wanted to be?
Your greatest asset is yourself. Your body and your mind are worth more than anything you could ever own, therefore it is of at most importance that you take best care of them. Whether it is what you consume, how much you exercise or how you behave in public, you need to first think of the consequences any of those things will have on you, physically or mentally. It’s always best to start working on your physique because it’s easier and doesn’t take as much time and mental power to create a healthy habit. But once you are doing well in that area you need to start focusing on your internal dialogue, for it is usually ourselves that are often our biggest enemy with all the negativity, strictness and highest expectations that slowly dissolve our confidence and good attitude from within. Start by observing and complimenting everything you do well instead of torturing yourself for every mistake that you have ever made. We all make mistakes, and that is great because that is the best way to learn and to evolve into becoming a better version of ourselves. — Tilen from Quintaum
You should see self-respect as the basis of all those decisions you are going to make in life. And you need to make good decisions in order to reach your full potential.
Self-respect is important as it indicates how you treat yourself, by that also how you treat others, and, whether your words are in harmony with your actions. You won’t get any happier if your actions fail your words all of the time.
To build self-respect, you need to believe, or at least be willing to digest the following 5 truths:
- Having self-respect is a conscious decision. Nobody but you brings that decision.
- You should be treated with respect just like every other person on this planet.
- But how much you respect others gives the general impression of how capable you are to truly respect yourself as well. Knowing that–you need self-respect in order to build meaningful and well-conditioned relationships with people. Don’t make promises that you can’t fulfill.
- Self-respect nurtures your self-esteem, which is sometimes crucial to play like a winner.
- A person with self-respect accepts themselves for who they are and forgive themselves for their flaws. Nobody is perfect, but everyone can improve and become better.
More than this, self-respect is about honestly acknowledging who you really are, and also acknowledging who you are not. If you are great with numbers but you are studying for a lawyer, you are potentially wasting precious talent. In which case, you have to ask yourself: are you the person you always wanted to be?
First of all, I truly believe respecting yourself is the key to success in all the other components of our life. The roots of my sense of self-respect are in my early childhood and the way I was loved and raised. Within the family value framework, I was allowed to explore things with no pressure. These allowed me to learn about myself, my strengths and weaknesses and self-value regardless of other people opinion. When needed, my family was always my quiet and loving shelter.
Later on, I read some books, went to a few workshops on how to build your self-respect but basically, I have not developed any special strategies but listen to my inner-self and try to be honest to myself as much as possible. However, I nurture some of the habits that work well for me:
– I avoid toxic people.
– I have developed a close friendship with only a few people who I can count on to be kind to me and yet honest no matter what.
– No matter how busy I am with work, children, husband or any other thing I take time for myself to be all alone and connected with my feelings and thoughts somewhere in nature.
– I am a true believer in lifelong learning and I involve myself in learning new things often.
– I have learnt to forgive myself for mistakes – small and big.
My motto is: ‘With so many mistakes on my shoulders already the world is still spinning and I am still alive and kicking. So, what’s the problem?’ I have no hard time apologizing to people or to admit making a mistake. I find this a real ’health treatment’. I am not trying to be someone else just to make a picture-perfect. As you can see, there’s nothing really dramatic I do but all those things make me feel comfortable in my skin and give me the sense of high self-value most of the days. – Irena from DOBA
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You are ALREADY the best version of yourself